If you're currently in crisis, severely depressed, or actively suicidal, please prioritize getting immediate professional help before taking this quiz. Contact a crisis hotline or emergency services first.

If you're feeling stable and curious about how your early life experiences might have influenced your relationships, this quiz can be a supportive tool—even if you're unsure that what you've experienced "counts" as challenging. However, if you're going through a particularly rough time right now, consider waiting until you have more emotional resources or professional support in place.

The quiz is designed with survivor-informed principles to minimize triggers and provide a supportive experience. We use gentle language, provide clear warnings about potentially difficult content, and emphasize your control throughout the process.

You have complete control at every step. You can pause, skip questions, exit at any time, or take breaks as long as you need. There's no pressure to complete everything in one session.

We strongly recommend working with a therapist who understands trauma survivor experiences alongside this quiz. Professional support provides specialized tools, safe processing space, and personalized guidance for your unique healing journey.

Stop immediately and prioritize your wellbeing. Exit the quiz, reach out to a support person, practice grounding techniques, or contact a crisis line if needed. Your safety is more important than completing any quiz.

It's completely normal to feel anger—at yourself, your caregivers, past or current partners, life, or at us for creating this quiz. You might also feel offended, and you might think "How dare you say all this about me? You don't even know me!" "You have no idea what I've been through!" You might also experience sadness, shame, fear, or numbness. You may also experience physical reactions. All of these are valid and common responses.

Be kind to yourself: speak to yourself as you would a dear friend going through the same thing. Consider talking to a therapist who understands trauma survivor experiences and can help you process these feelings safely and provide professional support for your healing journey.

Remember to breathe, stay connected to your body, and notice your surroundings. If you feel disconnected or overwhelmed, try grounding techniques like naming 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste.

Many people experience difficult feelings when exploring their past. This is normal and doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. Be gentle with yourself and remember that healing happens in layers, at your own pace.

Take as much time as you need between questions and sections. You can return when you feel ready, whether that's in a few minutes, hours, or days. Your healing journey is on your timeline, not ours.

Remember that these styles are survival strategies and intelligent adaptations that helped you navigate unsafe or unpredictable environments. Your developing brain created exactly what you needed to survive those circumstances. They show your strength, not your weaknesses. If results feel overwhelming, please reach out to a therapist who understands trauma survivor experiences and can help you process them safely.

Memories often carry intense feelings that can feel overwhelming when you're dealing with them alone. Professional guidance helps you revisit these experiences safely, without becoming retraumatized, while building strength and self-compassion. Remember that any difficult feelings that arise are normal responses. Your survival strategies protected you then, and even difficult feelings now are part of your protective system trying to keep you safe.

The brain's ability to form new connections throughout life means these survivor love styles aren't set in stone. With awareness, support, and practice, these styles can heal and change over time. Neuroplasticity research shows that our brains continue forming new connections throughout our lives.

This quiz should only be taken voluntarily. No one should pressure you to explore your experiences or share your results. You have complete control over your healing journey and what you choose to explore.

Your responses and this guide are confidential. No data is shared without your explicit consent. By continuing, you confirm that you voluntarily chose to complete this questionnaire.

All data automatically deleted when you exit or cancel. We use zero long-term data retention - your privacy is protected through immediate deletion when you choose to leave.

You maintain complete control over your information throughout the session. You can pause, exit, cancel and delete all data at any time during your session.

Before exiting, you can download your results PDF. You'll be prompted before accidentally losing your progress.

Our lawful basis is legitimate interests for providing functional service. You have complete control over your data and all your rights are protected throughout the session.

🇦🇺 Australia:

• Lifeline: 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support)

• 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 (sexual assault & domestic violence)

• Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 (depression & anxiety support)

• Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 (ages 5-25)

🇺🇸 USA:

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988 (24/7)

• RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE (24/7)

• Crisis Text Line: Text 'HOME' to 741741

• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

🇨🇦 Canada:

• Talk Suicide Canada: 1-833-456-4566 (24/7)

• Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868 (ages 5-29)

• Crisis Text Line: Text 'TALK' to 686868

• National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-866-887-0015

🇬🇧 United Kingdom:

• Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7 crisis support)

• NSPCC Childline: 0800 1111 (ages 5-19)

• Rape Crisis: 0808 802 9999

• Mind Infoline: 0300 123 3393 (mental health support)

🇳🇿 New Zealand:

• Lifeline Aotearoa: 0800 543 354 (24/7 crisis support)

• Youthline: 0800 376 633 (ages 12-25)

• Sexual Abuse HELP: 0800 623 1700

• Depression Helpline: 0800 111 757

If you're experiencing thoughts of self-harm or suicide, please reach out for immediate help. These resources are available for support during difficult times.

This quiz is not a clinical diagnostic tool and does not replace professional mental health services.

We are not mental health professionals. We are app developers and fellow trauma survivors. If you're experiencing distress, please consult with a psychologist or another qualified healthcare provider.

Reflecting on early life experiences may bring up difficult feelings and thoughts. Please take breaks as needed and prioritize your well-being.

We strongly recommend discussing your results with a therapist who understands trauma survivor experiences. Professional support can help you safely explore and work with these insights.

If you need immediate support, please reach out to a crisis hotline or emergency services in your area.