How difficult life experiences may have shaped your relationships
Keeping One Foot Out the Door
Repeated early disruptions and losses taught you to become a master of emotional insurance policies đź“‹ - never investing too deeply in any one person or place because you learned that everything ends eventually. This protective strategy
helped you survive countless goodbyes and escape multiple close-call heartbreaks. It gave you the strength to adapt quickly when your partners suddenly shifted gears on you. Your ability to stay flexible and independent became your resilience and your protective armor 🛡️.
But now this creates a palpable distance between you and your partner even in your good relationships. You hold back from committing fully, keep escape routes ready-always prepared to walk out in 30 seconds flat if you spot trouble coming from around the corner.
At your core you struggle with secure attachment
because you don't believe that the partners you attract will actually stick around. You've become so skilled at being self-reliant and not needing anyone that you've forgotten how sweet it feels to truly belong and relax with someone 🤗. The cruel irony—of which you're sometimes aware—is that it's the fear of being left alone that makes you burn bridges and break the very connections you so desperately crave.